Conversation: 3 Vital Factors

Things we overlook more often

We meet many people in our daily life. Among those, few are from our own family, few are our relatives, friends or peer groups, and few belong to the work arena. 

We have numerous conversations with all these people on a daily basis for many reasons. Be it family matters, simple buddy talks, having good chats with relatives or having serious business meetings with our working partners or clients.

We tend to share many things and come to a decisive point by the end of these conversations. But sadly, we tend to overlook a few very simple yet effective factors that can make some significant changes during these conversations and add some extra value that we might not be aware of.

  

So, those 3 simple but vital factors are: 

1. Eye Contact 
2. Positive/happy Face, and 
3. Positive EndNote 

Now follow me...

1. Eye Contact

You might get an idea that this is a very cliche subject to bring on in regards to a daily conversation but you can't imagine how big a difference it does make! 

If you talk to a person keeping your eyes fixed on him/her for a good amount to time with sensible interval (not like a zombie) then you have a chance to add some serious value to this conversation as well as to yourself. 

You know what, people like to see or talk with kinda person who shows more concentration to their talks, whatever may it be. It reflects on the others a sense of firm personality about you which allows them to take you positively. 

When you keep your eyes focused on the person sitting and talking in front of you, he/she would feel important to him/herself and this really does the trick! He/she opens up more to you and share more valuable information that you would find beneficial. 

Remember when you see others not looking at you (especially with their eyes) while you are saying something important? How does it make you feel? Odd? Deprived? Unimportant? 

The person in front of you would think the same way! 

Okay, I'm not saying that every single person you meet who are avoiding their eye contact with you could be a weirdo. Some people are shy and nervous to keep their eyes up. Here, in this case, the more you know that person, the better for you to build a reliable bond.

Lack of eye contact can make you look inferior, create misunderstanding and even divert your focus from the discussion you are having with a person. So start practicing to control your eyes. Try the mirror! Talk with your reflection and keep watch over its eyes! Slowly and eventually you can learn it.

2. Positive or Happy Face

Yes, you are not a child anymore! 

Still, that doesn't put you out from smiling while talking (not in any traumatic situation of course). I mean, keeping only your eyes jammed on a person can make you look like anything! But smiling gently and nicely eases the tension between two persons and take a big stride forward with the rapport.  

Sometimes the person in front of you shares more information than you do. During that part of conversation, you don't have much to do. So, to keep his talks going (if it's really valuable) you simply can smile besides just nodding like an obedient nerdy student. 

Smiling more often recreates a conscious energizing process inside your brain which keep you up with the whole conversation. It makes you look interested in the conversation and eventually creates a long-lasting bond between you and that person. 

It's not that you would feel like smiling on every occasion. But if you really need to attend a necessary talk, do it with a manner and maybe with your personalized style of having a meaningful or interesting conversation. But the simplest thing to remember is to look happy!

3. Positive EndNote

How do you feel when you end up a conversation without having a smile shared with each other, or without saying goodbye while seeing each other off? 

On the other hand, how does it make you feel when even after having a boring or disagreeing conversation with someone, you end up the discussion very nicely with that same person?

Yup! The first kind of situation will make you feel heavy inside, confused and unstable. 

And the second one may not give you the best feeling regarding that conversation but at least help you get back to the topic or the person positively later. You might not want to make a further conversation with that same guy but this will instigate you to think positively; at best, not to think bad about him/her.

Our psychology is like that. We always tend to find the positive things out of every situation. But due to lack of understanding, lack of good practice, and our age-long cultured ego, we forget to add the positive gesture at the endpoint of our conversation on most occasions. 

Babies smile more than the grown-ups on average which always brings us back to them happily. We can't act like babies, right. But at least we can do the positive things in a matured way of course!

Bottom Line 

So try to apply these three factors in your own harmless ways. 

Next time you participate in any conversation, start with your Eyes, continue till the end with your Smile. and end up with a Positive Note/Gesture. 

Alright Then!

May Allah Bless You All. Stay Happy and Safe!😊